The initial three habits were part of a Private victory that will lead you to self-control. Let us look at them in brief:
- Be Proactive: Principle of personal vision
- Begin with the end in mind: Principle of personal leadership
- Put First Things first: Principle of personal management.
The fourth habit is related to Public victory.
Most of us have been living in a belief that our life is a big game where some win and some lose. We seek life as a competition where if you don’t win someone else will win. Due to this concept, we are living our life to beat other so that we can win. Winning is everything for us. It doesn’t matter whether other lose or win, but you have to win anyhow.
Remember that defensive minds are neither creative nor cooperative.
You basically get what you reward. If you put good people in the bad systems, you get bad results.
To be effective people, you must value the needs of other. Whenever you are dealing with someone, it is better to go with a WIN/WIN concept rather than WIN/LOSE concept. It really builds your interpersonal skill. WIN/WIN is the best strategy because here both the parties win. If you want to have a long-term relationship with your partner, then this habit is a must for you. You must care your needs along with your partner.
Remember that you have to water the flowers you want to grow.